thirdw0rld:

Nearly every depiction of heterosexual sex and romance is tainted by male domination and female submission. Socialized subjugation of women has been successfully promoted as natural, healthy, godly, and essential. Media propaganda infuses us with stories of academically and professionally successful women who “at the end of the day” really just want babies, male approval, and male domination over them, both sexually and socially. Feminism is the evil, jealous anti-Christ that wants to strip women of their supposedly god-given femininity and turn them into mock men. When in actuality, feminism only seeks to level the playing field. Feminism makes the grave mistake of presuming women’s status as full fledged human beings worthy of the same dignity and respect men receive. 

It is important to pay very close attention, with a critical eye, to media depictions of heterosexuality. It is significant that cunnilingus is almost never displayed, that all the women in TV shows and films seem to magically orgasm from 2 minutes of penetration with no clitoral stimulation, that after sex women are either seen talking to their girlfriends about maybe settling down with her recent sex partner or crying that he hasn’t called while men are shown summarizing his sexual experience as some sort of conquest; he [in many cases] has emotionally manipulated and pressured her to consent to sex and after quite some time and effort, finally managed to “fuck” (a word full of implicit and explicit misogyny) the girl (even 30 year olds are still ‘girls’ in the media.) 

It’s important that men are almost always the initiators of sex in television and films and that pushing, grabbing, pinning down, covering of the woman’s mouth (so she can’t say no?), and haphazardly bumping into furniture and walls is part of the standard sex scene, with men always as the aggressor. Rough sex with questionable consent is considered “passionate” and the kind that really makes women cum, as opposed to that gay, sissy shit they claim to like (kissing, sensual touching, lots of foreplay, being treated as a respected and cared for human being whose needs are just as important as the man’s.) 

It’s also interesting that women’s bodies are almost always on display in hypersexualized ways. Women in TV and movies wear a full face of makeup, immaculately styled hair, 5 inch heels, and skirts the length of a bandana every day everywhere. There’s nothing wrong with women dressing as they wish, but it’s important to ask who are these women dressing for and why? And why are only female characters for whom femininity and sexuality is paramount given a spot in the media? Because if a woman has the audacity to have a sexuality, she better manufacture that sexuality to promote and embrace capitalism (sex sells) and patriarchy (women are sex toys). Music videos are the perfect embodiments of this, where nearly naked girls are paraded around as jesters for male entertainment and sexual satisfaction while simultaneously promoting consumerism. 

And as I’ve said before, if the way women are portrayed in media is so empowering, why aren’t men depicted in the same light? Why aren’t men shaking their nearly bare asses as Katy Perry sings about spreading her vaginal secretions across their faces? Why aren’t men walking around in patent leather boots and MAC lipstick? Why don’t men show up to their law firm showing a little skin (more than their neck, face, and hands)? Why don’t men exhibit a submissive, performance based sexuality which revolves around pleasing the woman? Why aren’t men being pegged (anally penetrated by way of a strap on or other object by their partner) to “spice up” their sex lives as opposed to women being the receptive partner of anal sex? 

nprfreshair:

Charles Rowan Beye is a professor who’s been married three times - to two women and a man. From Maureen Corrigan’s review of his new memoir “My Husband and My Wives: A Gay Man’s Odyssey”:

Eventually, however, even Beye’s mother couldn’t blink away his budding homosexuality. Beye was in junior high and enjoying a limited menu of sexual adventures with mostly straight boys, when the local Episcopal priest informed Beye’s mother that her son’s name was scrawled, along with a sexual slur, on a men’s room wall. Mother promptly dispatched her wayward son to a psychiatrist who — counter to almost every other psychiatrist in every work of gay literature ever written — turns out to be a compassionate man. The shrink simply counsels the 15-year-old Beye to be more discreet.

Things take an even more unexpected turn when Beye meets an intellectually sparkling woman named Mary in college and, at the end of their first hour of conversation in a drugstore booth, Beye looks at her and declares: “This has been great … I think we should get married.” At 21, he had never slept with a woman. Nevertheless they do marry, happily, and when Mary suddenly dies of a freak heart condition a few years later, Beye remarries and fathers four children — all along maintaining his core identity as a gay man and enjoying an abundant sex life, described in great fleshy detail here, with gay and straight men.

I want to read this…

blackfoxx:

Ewww I hate that excerpt that is going around about dismantling patriarchal gender norms not being “sexy” or “cute”  And this could just be me as a queer woman speaking because them little concessions she gets, I rarely do, but….

Umm who cares if patriarchy gets your panties wet? Thats how the fuck its supposed to work. That shit has constructed the nature of your desire along with any and everything else. If you want someone to hold a door for you…Cool…But that is not a reason to uphold a crushing cis/heteronormative system that crushes the souls of people everday. You getting your jollies off to “thug passion” and feeling cute cause you got a door held is not a good reason not to dismantle this fucked up reality we are living in. You still have the choice to interact with and choose a man who does those things for you. You can still request and desire to be treated delicately. And if an aggro whisper turns you on cool. But you will not get in the way of my revolution cause you think patriarchy is totally hot and cool aside from it…you know…destroying peoples’ lives. And what messages are you sending men, totally undoing all of our work with irresponsible words like “men with feminist sensibilities barely get my panties wet.” Keep that harmful and destructive shit to yourself. i know folks think they are being real and yeah thats important, but not if you are just going to leave it there. If you gone showcase your dirty laundry at least attempt to clean that shit the fuck up so the rest of us dont have to smell your shitty drawers.

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